The Prettiest Insanity: Loving Wildly and Without Fear
“People who are sensible about love are incapable of it.”
-Douglas Yates
There is enough talk of love in this world as something delicate, beautiful, and poised, love that is declared by vows in a church, announced by a quaint Valentine’s day card, described as a delicate flower (usually a rose). If you are like me, then this is not enough to constitute the kind of love you seek. Though these things are certainly components of love, they are perhaps not totally akin to the stoked embers from the fire within a heart like yours or mine. Neat, tidy, pre-planned mainstream “love” is for pussies, for people who perhaps are so stripped of raw passion that they cannot even allow their hearts to break a sweat in love’s righteous heat. My interpretation is more spirited.
Love becomes the prettiest form of insanity; an irrational, inexplicable feeling of soaring past the mundane and attaining a deep, beautiful crazy happiness that makes everything you touch sing your heart’s ferocious ode. It is courageous, glaring, sacred, and untamed and if you’ve felt it, you would never want to tame it anyhow. It is as if love banshees are screaming out from your chest that you must bring your beloved closer or truly go insane. It is a fat fistful of bright wildflowers, petals winded and cracking at the stems, held out the window on a laughing wild ride on a rose petal-paved Autobahn for the heart. Sure, there are plenty of people out there who fall in love. Me, I don’t fall. I fucking dive head first into the waters of my blissful soul. That’s my kind of love.
“Love in its essence is spiritual fire.”
-Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Understand: to desire, seek out, and create a love of this magnitude, one must be a little disquieted by the everyday reality that many people title “relationships.” If you’ve been burned before, if you’ve held out for something more, if you think “dammit to hell, I want the big kind of love like in the movies,” then you are already ahead of the curve. Have we become so corporate, so cubicle-minded as a social culture that we’ve even formatted love into something that you could be “trained in” using a three-ring-binder manual? I hope to God not.
Good love, real love, the love you seek, it is the only kind of crazy I can think of that actually makes you look better. Your skin glows. Your eyes are afire with playful mischief and desire and hope and compassion beyond what you thought you were capable of. That, itself–the ability to take you beyond what you thought you were capable of–is a hallmark of great love. Suddenly, you find yourself behaving in ways that put you in your best light. It’s because you are in your best light…the light of someone else’s loving eyes.
“Give all to love.
Obey thy heart.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
The trick is to move beyond the hurt and fears and ugliness of love lost, and get to the heart’s juicy center, bursting with fruit flavor and mystical bliss. This is soul love. The world is changing, and with it, the kind of energy we are able to put forth, and draw towards us, is expanding. What wouldn’t have been possible for most of us a decade ago is now very, very real today…and looking back on your life, you know this to be true. Love is no exception. As the wounded world heals itself, as we heal it through our lovingkindness and acts of compassion, our bodies, hearts and spirits become more attuned to the frequencies of Great Love. So if at some point, you became jaded and gave up on the idea of finding your soulmate, now is the perfect time to open your heart and give giant, bat-shit crazy love a chance to bite you in the ass. That’s right, folks: for those of you who wish it to be so, cupid is coming straight for your ass and you’d better bend over. The world needs you to be in love. We are aching for the creation of joy, of bliss, of happiness and healing. Love is the single most effective catalyst and tool to accomplish everything we need to get done on this beautiful planet we have here. It is what will ultimately bond and heal our one world community. Love makes you want to be your best. Love bends you and stretches the fabric of your being to reach places you thought you couldn’t. Love is the anti-virus to apathy. It wakes you up and makes you do something. Whatever your “something” is, you will do it better when you are deeply, passionately in love.
Never mind the kind of love that comes with endlessly boring montages of exhausting errands to the dry cleaners and bank without the benefit of passion when you get home. You can get what you want out of love today. I’m telling you this because it’s true, and because you genuinely deserve it. No more “was it good for you” in the bedroom. Find yourself the kind of love that, often beautiful and soft and soulful and tender, also at times makes you moan so well the paint peels off the walls and your neighbors blush with jealousy…but you won’t be embarrassed, because you’ll know you’re setting the tone for the kind of love people deserve to have. You will feel how sacred love is when you touch, when you look into one another’s eyes, and you will understand what it means to see inside someone else’s soul. You will regard and protect that soul as if it was your own. It is your own. It is the glittering, bright reflection of yourself in someone else. It is mystical, magickal, and sacred. Yes, your Great Love will be a mile-marker, bar-setting standard of perfection by which other couples measure their own. If you think about it, how can people get Great Love if they don’t even have exposure to it or know it exists anymore? With these words, let us begin a grassroots mission to teach the world that mad, passionate, True Love is out there. We can all live a sacred faerytale. So when you find it, hold onto it…live it fully…feed it…fuel it…nurture it and the person who inspires it within you…and by all means, show it on wide screen to the world (minus the bedroom parts…we don’t want to see your bits and junk and gyrating, thanks…just the actual love). Kiss in the park. Hold hands on the subway and stare and flirt and be free and loving in a way that lets the worldly onlookers see what you’ve got. You’ll be a role model for love…for true love. Seeing true love in your face means that people will not allow themselves to settle! Settling is dying inside, just a little bit, every day. Love isn’t meant to kill your spirit; it is meant to illuminate it.
Go out and find the love you’re looking for now. You don’t have to really even look. Just exude the love you want, and watch it find you. It is there for you. This, I promise. It is there for all of us. It’s time…your love is ready and waiting.
-Jennifer Abeles is the Founder & Faery Queen of Soul Candy, and was recently struck in the ass by the fiery arrow of the love cupid herself. She’ll keep you abreast of her progress.
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This blog is great. How did you come up witht he idea? 6 5 4
Gaston, thanks for your positive feedback! Soul Candy was a phenomenon that had been brewing inside my heart space for quite some time. One day it rushed and fluttered to the surface of my thinking mind, and I scribbled down “Soul Candy” on a scrap piece of paper (as us writers/creative types often do) and waited for it to ripen. I began to reflect upon what Soul Candy could mean to us, to our collective community of seekers and dreamers in this world. My hope is that it will inspire joy and forward movement in all of us…with a few laughs, “a-ha’s,” and slivers of happiness as we grow along together!
Hi Jenn
Jenn Abeles sent this link to me. This is what I’ve been waiting to hear for some time. Yet I didn’t know so. So thank you! It struck me in such a way to that I feel clear and knowing to not ’settle’ and hold out. I always struggle with this sort of cookie cutter idea of what love is and well have had some kind of notion to the linking of your own but have remained in this unbearable state of ambivalence staying in relationships feeling like I need to settle or take what is there and not hold out for something better.
Powerful, poignant and certain. Yes this is what. So the best! Thank you!
Desi
Hi, Desi! Thank you so much for sharing your feedback with me. Especially as this site is just beginning to unfold, it means so much to have feedback like this and know that I might be on the right track with my words. As for your relationship future, I have *no doubt* in my mind that huge, all encompassing massive heart-rocking love is heading your way, so get ready!
PS: To anyone confused by the part of Desi’s comment that says “Jenn Abeles sent this link to me,” there exists another, totally incredibly beautifully brilliant Jennifer Abeles in this world…and I’m lucky enough to know her! It is the “other” Jennifer who sent Desi the article. Synchronicity…how lovely!
Hey my love! Do I have to say it, anther masterpiece from my angel on Earth, love the article. It says exactly what all ears need to hear. The love they search for may just last a little longer and the hurt a little less if they love like this. I am most definitely passing this one on. Bravo!
Thank you so much, Char! What a lovely way to give my heart a glow! Faery Kisses…xoxo
If I had a greenback for each time I came to http://www.soul-candy.com! Great writing.